38 more life tips
- good things to know (in my opinion)
Other people are not better at adult life than you. Most of us are just making it up as we go along, and that is fine (I include marriage/children/parenting in this). Don’t assume that you’re a lone outlier and that everybody else is a thousand times more competent than you. Yes, some people are highly organised. It’s a control thing, an attempt at imposing order on the unpredictable chaos of human existence. But steering your ship with a very light hand is also an option.
Never underestimate the life-changing power of a really good mattress.
Your version of events is not definitive. It is your version. The other person/people will have their own version, interpreted through their own eyes, lives, feelings and experiences - their truth, to use a phrase I don’t love. Both versions are valid.
If something is good, don’t pull at tiny little threads. All there is to gain is unravelling.
Your life is now, today. A lot of people feel dissatisfied because they are always imagining a future where X or Y problem has been addressed and solved. This is like always looking over someone’s shoulder at a party, except in this instance you are looking over the shoulder of your own actual life. Constantly thinking, ‘I will be happy once X happens,’ is a fool’s errand. X might happen, or it might not. Whatever. Meanwhile you only get one 16 May 2024 in your whole entire existence.